“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
― Mark Twain
Are your anger issues ruining your life? Do you ever get so angry that you want to throw something? Do you find yourself always getting irritated by your spouse? Are you always screaming at your kids? Getting mad at coworkers?
Anger is not all bad—it is how we handle it. Anger can help us detect threatening situations or motivate us to do something productive, such as change aspects of our lives we are not content with. It can prevent others from walking all over you. But constant, uncontrollable anger can be a destructive emotion. It can cause you to do things you regret, to hurt those around you or it can take a toll on your personal relationships. Sometimes anger is just a bad habit you use to deal with the feelings of frustration because things are not going as you want them to.
There is also evidence that anger is linked with heart disease, high blood pressure, peptic ulcers, stroke, and making chronic pain worse.
In the safety of the therapy room, we can explore the triggers that precipitate your angry feelings and develop the skills you need to be able to handle them. We explore and target the other emotions entangled within anger, such as hurt, lack of control, shame, and fear.
I can work with you to learn assertive skills that will help you to express your concerns and needs honestly and directly without hurting others or trying to control them.
Do you live with a person who has poor coping patterns and is constantly critical of you? They will not change unless that person makes a strong commitment to learn how to break into their destructive behavior.